Single and loving it

by Kristin Baker

Singlehood isn't often celebrated in February, the month of Cupid. However, Wichita offers many hangouts and activities for single people. Among them are men and women of all different ages who are enjoying all the single lifestyle has to offer them. Featured here are some of Wichita's finest unattached. Some of them are seeking romance and some are content alone, but all of these individuals are single and lovin it.

The Questions

  • Describe your job.
  • What are some of your favorite pastimes?
  • What do you consider to be your best asset?
  • What is your favorite thing about Wichita?
  • What do you love about being single?
  • What is the worst dating experience you've ever had?
  • How do you feel about kissing on the first date?
  • What is the nicest thing you've ever done for a significant other?
  • What is the worst thing about members of the opposite sex?
  • What would it take for you to change your mind about being single?

Ben Davis, 26

I just received a job working for U.S. Senator Jerry Moran, so I do a whole range of different things from constituent casework to dabbling in doing policy work to doing some advising. It's not just one particular thing, range of different issues. It's constantly changing.

I would say my biggest hobby is I really have a love for reading. Books and ideas are kind of like my passion. I enjoy reading everything, literature and history especially. I also enjoy staying physically active; I am currently training to do a half Iron Man in September. I really enjoy being around small groups of friends. I really enjoy traveling.

I think I'm a pretty decent communicator. I do spend a lot of my time conversing with people in various fields, whether it be for my job or socially. One of my greatest attributes and greatest woes is stubbornness on some things. It can be a great thing if it's standing up for principles, and it can be a vice when you are dealing with other people. And I would like to think I am a fairly considerate, caring person.

I really appreciate the smallness of Wichita and the interconnectedness of the people. I enjoy that. One of my favorite places to go in Wichita is Eighth Day Books (2838 E. Douglas). They're really trying to form and bring together a bunch of people in the Wichita area, people who enjoy literature and writing and being together in a good community, and the thing that is underpinning in all these things is their faith.

My time. I think time is definitely one of the greatest things about being single. The older you get, you do appreciate how precious time is.

I can't say that there's been some huge bombing failure of a date. I had one date in particular this last year, and she was great. On the first date we were sharing things about our lives, and we came to the realization we had absolutely nothing in common whatsoever. It was extremely awkward; we both shut up. Afterward I still had to drive her home.

I'm somewhat of a traditionalist on this. I think it's probably a good, healthy thing for both of you to wait on that. I have to say I have kissed on the first date, but I have to say if I had a choice I would wait. I would like to think at least if nothing else I'd be respectful of a girl, and I'd like to get a girl who would want to be respected.

There was a girl who I kind of dated, and it wasn't a really long relationship. I had something pressing going on for school, and she had a huge project that came up, and I completely threw out everything that I had to do. I helped her write a couple of papers out over the course of a couple of days. She got a good grade, so I was happy about that, too.

I don't know if I have anything that is the worst thing about them, but often times they can be very confusing. Men and women think so differently on different issues. For men, things are cut and dry. We try to simplify things, come to logical conclusions. Girls are such a radically different deal than that.

The right person. It's that simple.

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